Martha Rafuto (not her real name) is a single
mother of 5 children, ages 5-20. She is a refugee from the Congo. She is also a
“political widow.”
In the Congo, she married a man who already had one
wife. Polygamy is a legal custom in her culture. As his second wife, Martha
gave Mr. Rafuto five children over two decades of marriage. They lived on a
family farm, growing maze and raising chickens. When war broke out, the whole
family was ripped from their homeland.
She and her husband, and his other wife, and all
their children, had to flee for their lives – literally dodging bullets. They
found safety in a UN Refugee camp in neighboring Tanzania.
When the family registered as legal refugees, the
UN told Mr. Rafuto that he had to choose one wife, that he couldn't have two
wives and be a legal UN supported refugee. So, he chose wife #1. And Martha
became a single mom. She lost her home. She lost her farm. And she lost her
husband.